Monday, December 28, 2015

The story about my lil boy..

     Sedar tak sedar.. Dah almost 6month  Ian undergo his special therapy.. Perubahan??.. Alhamdulillah positive. Sangat- sangat positive. Now dah boleh say 'bye-bye',.. Dah boleh count 1-10 walau pelat-pelat banyak, mmyddy dah so happy and so proud of it. Sebab nampak ada effort positif from him.

     When people asking me about my boy, I memang tak selesa nak bercerita. I tak suka bila orang tanya-tanya sangat sebab that thing memang bothering me like for every night 24/7. Then nak explain pulak dekat orang yang tanya-tanya... Memang sangat tak selesa. Dan memang sangat tak suka. Boleh moody satu hari bila orang tanya lepas tu banding-banding dengan budak lain sebaya dia.. Tak suka!.. Ian is a special boy.. For us. Me and husband. And my parent. Mereka faham. He is our precious sweetheart. I tak pernah cerita about him dekat siapa-siapa kecuali keluarga terdekat. The reason is, orang tak faham.. takkan faham dan suka judge. I tak suka orang pandang rendah pada dia. Tambah-tambah saudara mara.. I tak nak orang banding-banding. Tak nak!!.. Because he is diffrent. Doesnt mean yang dia tak boleh adapt. As he grow up, he grow up normally like any other kids. Cuma, by the time passed by, we noticed that he had a speech delayed and a lil bit of hot temper. Tantrum. Thats all.

     As for now,  Ian memang tengah undergo speech therapy also occupational therapy. His speech therapy once a month kat Ipoh, for his speech.. Then occupational therapy once a week as a support for his speech therapy. Nanti, by time, speech dia akan datang sendiri.. sambil-sambil buat therapy tu dia akan asah his motoric and speech skills and will leads him to his speech, kata his therapist. Actually, mostly occupational therapy adalah for autisme kids, tapi we decide untuk buat jugak as suggested by his speech therapist. Bukan apa, sebab occupational theraphy tu ada di Grik, dekat dengan rumah dan tak ramai orang.. infact, tak ada orang pun.. Ian lah satu-satunya patient budak yang pergi situ.. Biasa lah orang kampung kan.. tak ada sangat kesedaran pasal benda-benda ni.. And pasal Ian speech delayed pun bagi diorang, its a normal things.. Tak perlu lah pergi jumpa peads or pergi  therapy bagai.. Bagi diorang, apa yang peads tu cakap, semua mengarut. Berubat kampung minum air tawar je lah.. Walhal, me and my husband dah susah hati gila. We trust doctors, peads more than bomoh thats for sure. So, bila ada peluang macam ni, we tend to try.. we just grab the opportunity la kan.. Therapy ni kalau kat KL, jangan mimpi lah.. tak akan dapat lah nak kerap-kerap macam ni sebab too many people.. The reason why i agreed untuk refer buat kat kampung pun sebab kalau kat KL, ramai orang dan tempat terhad. Jauh lebih baik di kampung. Boleh buat seminggu sekali at least and one to one session tu boleh la lama sikit.
     Frankly speaking, me and mr.husband memang tak pernah berhenti fikirkan soal ni.. Tambah bila ada anak yang perlukan lebih attention. Having a special kids ni memang parent had to be strong. Really-really strong. Moral support between husband and wife memang perlu kuat. And kena sentiasa sabar. Banyak-banyak sabar. Kena sentiasa positif. Sebab, there a lot of struggle in bringing up our special child. Banyak dugaan cabaran kena hadapk.. dan memang kena banyak bekorban. Banyak sangat-sangat. Theraphy pun kena konsisten... Bukan dua tiga bulan pergi terus nak ada kesan. Kena sabar. Dan our kes ni baru kes biasa-biasa je tau.. Belum lagi kes ASD (autisme spectrum disorder) , ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder).. and banyak lagi.. Itu lagi perlukan 100% attention.
     In my case, i terasa ralat sikit sebab the kids tak tinggal sama-sama with me. Tinggal dengan my parent as i still lagi tak habis study kat Indon. Itu yang rasa susah hati lebih tu. Rasa tak puas sebab tak buat sendiri dan tak dapat buat macam yang i nak. Its actually lagi mencabar.. Dan yang paling i risau, ofcause lah pasal Ian. Its not easy nak handle semua benda dalam satu masa dengan kekangan jarak yang jauh.. But, luckily my parent, mak abah sangat-sangat membantu. Mereka banyak menolong dan bagi semangat. Untuk teruskan study yang tersisa 2tahun (giving birth 2 kali kena extend 2 tahun) lagi.. Untuk terus kuat demi anak-anak.. Dan mak abah jugak banyak berkorban untuk pastikan cucu mereka (Tisya and Ian) dapat yang terbaik selayaknya.
Terima kasih Mak Abah. 😊
     Hopefully, by nextyear (2017).. Ian turns to 4years old, dah dapat masuk playschool. Itu yang his peads and us sedang usahakan. Nak masukkan dia ke sekolah. Nak kurangkan sikit his tantrum, so that dia boleh berkawan. And by that boleh improve his vocabulary. Its not easy, for him and for us untuk diusahakan,.. TAPI  TAK MUSTAHIL. We had the whole year of 2016 to catch up with that. Insyaallah. Boleh... Ian boleh.. Aamiin. 😊
Ian during is one to one theraphy session.

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